Feminist Badass: Camille Paglia

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Equal opportunity feminism, which I espouse, demands the removal of all barriers to woman’s advance in the political and professional world — but not at the price of special protections for women which are infantilizing and anti-democratic.

I was cruising around the net tonight and discovered, Camille Paglia, who I think is a class A feminist badass.

While I don’t agree with her on everything, and I haven’t yet had a chance to read her books, I love her idea that feminism needs to get back to its historic roots. She says in one of the videos that the feminism of today has become ‘weepy-whiny’.

Here’s a few quotes from her:

It took most of my life to realize that men are not tyrants or egomaniacs. I had an epiphany in a shopping mall recently that put it all in perspective. I was having a piece of pizza and I saw all these teenage boys running around in the mall. They were wild. I looked at them and saw this desperation. When I was their age I hated those kinds of boys because they were so obnoxious. They are so involved in their status, gaining it, afraid of losing it. I’m glad I don’t have to be that age again. So they sat down near me and they didn’t notice me. I didn’t exist on their radar map. I was thinking, This is great. I was watching. They were full of energy and life. And I suddenly realized, My God, the reason they are so loud, the reason they are so uncontrolled, the reason I hated them at that age is that they bond with each other against women. It was the first time they were able to be away from the control of a woman — their mothers. They were on their own and for this period they’re very dangerous. Women have to watch out when they go to fraternity parties, because the men are all trying to up their status among one another and there is all this testosterone. And then some girl will snag them. And that’s it. It’s over for them. They get married and they’re under the control of their wives forever. You hear these women all the time, on, like, Ricki Lake, saying, “You know, I have two children, but actually I have three children” about the husband, and it’s true: The husband becomes a child again. Even when men are doing their share, taking out the garbage, doing the mopping, whatever, women are still running the household. They are in control and the men become subordinate again. So that’s what the feminists are so worried about? Men who are subordinated by their mothers and then by their wives? Men are looking for maternal solace in women, and that’s the nature of heterosexuality. Now you tell me, who really has all the power?

I love that last bit.

Madonna won my undying loyalty by reviving and re-creating the hard glamour of the studio-era Hollywood movie queens, figures of mythological grandeur. Contemporary feminism cut itself off from history and bankrupted itself when it spun its paranoid fantasy of male oppressors and female sex-object victims. Woman is the dominant sex. Woman’s sexual glamour has bewitched and destroyed men since Delilah and Helen of Troy.

I love her ability to speak what she thinks is truth. She doesn’t apologize for her views and challenges people to prove her wrong. She doesn’t sit around and dwell on some mythical miasma called the patriarchy, but instead boasts about the strength found in women.

Women’s studies is a comfy, chummy morass of unchallenged groupthink. It is, with rare exception, totally unscholarly. Academic feminists have silenced men and dissenting women.

Ouch!

I also like how she champions free speech. She strikes me as a very strong person, with a strong personality, strong opinions and strong, straightforward manner of speaking.

I want a revamped feminism. Putting the vamp back means the lady must be a tramp. My generation of Sixties rebels wanted to smash the bourgeois codes that had become the authoritarian totems of the Fifties. The ‘nice’ girl with her soft, sanitized speech and decorous manners had to go. Thirty years later, we’re still stuck with her — in the official spokesmen and the anointed heiresses of the feminist establishment… Equal opportunity feminism, which I espouse, demands the removal of all barriers to woman’s advance in the political and professional world — but not at the price of special protections for women which are infantilizing and anti-democratic.

So there you have it. I just wanted to share a few bits that I found tonight while reading up on feminism as a whole. When I ran across one of these video clips, I just had to know more about Camille Paglia.

What do you think about the quotes, videos or Paglia in general?

 

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Trip Down Memory Lane

While unpacking, my lady came across a Ziploc bag  of old pictures I never knew I had. So I thought I’d share a few with you guys and gals.

 

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This is my daughter. It’s hard to imagine she was this little at one point.

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This is me sitting at my mom’s. My daughter must have fallen asleep. It’s a family trait.

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This is my dad hanging out with my son. I really miss my dad. Seeing old photo’s of him still stings and I suspect it always will.

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Not the best picture but it’s Christmas. Deal with it. 🙂

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My son. He was the cutest thing. He’s now a father as well. Time flies.

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Meet Burr. he was our families first dog. He was an amazing animal and the perfect family dog. I could sit here and type out all sorts of stories based around my friend, Burr.

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This is from tonight. Dexter kept giving my lady this look while I was at work. She finally texted me and told me that he was being buggy but she’d already let him out.

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He wouldn’t stop. I asked her if he had water. He didn’t so she filled the bowl and he left her alone.

Dogs are such remarkable creatures. I don’t know what I’d do without mine.

There you have it. Peace to you and yours.

2006 Self Made Man: Norah Vincent chooses Female Privilege over Male Privilege

Since I’ve heard incessantly over the last few days that I can’t possibly know anything about the patriarchy or how it feels to be a woman awash in an oppressive Western society, I thought I’d share this video.

It was created by a feminist woman who lived like a man for several months. It documents her experiences. If you don’t watch the entire thing, go to the 17:00 mark and watch her conclusions.

I hope you enjoy it.

 

How Feminists Are Failing People Around The World

I’ve been doing a lot of reading on feminism lately and what it means to be a feminist. I honestly think feminism is currently failing the very people it says it’s trying to help.

To make this point, I’m going to look at a few things that are stated as ‘feminist goals’. Now keep in mind that feminism is a diverse ideology, but I personally think that how it’s currently being put into practice is letting millions of people down worldwide.

Let’s look at ‘Feminism Now’.

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What does this even mean? It sounds like religious babble.

You see…there are cultural aspects that need unveiling…but there is so much to navigate you can’t know about it…but I do, right?

Could you be any less clear, Feminism now? What rights are women in Western cultures denied? What laws are on the books that apply only to women and not to men? What is this knowledge you have that we need?

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What political movements? Where did you pull that 80% figure from and do you mean a wage gap or an earnings gap? Why is there no link given but there is one to the people disputing your numbers?

They say ‘for instance’ but never give an example to back it up.

The entire piece is just so vague and full of buzzwords it’s sickening to read.

But maybe they make better points later.

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So they are monitoring language and shaming people for any word they deem unfit or misogynistic.

I’m glad that’s looked after. I can’t think of any other cause as worthy or more worthy.

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So they are going to police other women as well. Good going. Go team feminism! If you don’t get along with every other woman, you’ll be labelled an internal sexist. That way we can silence even other women who disagree with our brand of feminism.

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Being white, even a white woman means you’re walking on shaky ground.

Notice everything that sounds like woo is labelled as ‘internalized’. Just like God, you won’t be able to see it. Just have faith it exists. If you’re white, you’re privileged and should feel guilt.

It’s funny, because I’ve read this site as well as others, and they seem very concerned with things like this ‘patriarchy’ and systems of Western oppression etc, but they all failed to mention anything about stuff like this.

You know, places where the patriarchy will quite literally hack your genitals apart without your consent.

Just watch that video. If you can still hold up your cultural relativism argument afterwards, I don’t know what else to say.

Watch that video and then watch any mainstream feminist video and the complaints made seem downright petty.

Or why aren’t they mentioning articles like this one that outline 10 countries where you can still, literally, be put to death for homosexuality.

I mean, if feminism is truly about both men and women, then why aren’t we speaking out about the violence being done to homosexuals around the world? They like to talk about Western countries and LGBT rights, and I admit they could be better in some areas, but in some areas of the world, you can have your head lopped off by the State for being a homosexual. That’s sanctioned by law.

Yet people continue to defend these practices using cultural relativism arguments.

I wrote a post some time ago on why I can’t label myself a feminist. I do believe in equal rights for both men and women, but I see no reason to change my mind. It’s beginning to resemble a cult more than a movement worth backing.

Personally, If I had to take any label, I’d go with Egalitarian. I think it more closely resembles my ideals.

Can Only White People Be Racist?

I’ve read a number of articles and been told specifically that black people can’t be racist, although they can be prejudiced.

As soon as I heard this claim, my bullshit meter went into high alert. However, being the skeptic that I am, I decided to do some research on my own.

So before we begin, let’s take a look at the definition of racism. I will even share more than one accepted definition, just in case you think I’m cherry picking.

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Here we have 3 definitions. All of them seem to agree with one another. The definitions are from Merriam, Oxford and Wiki.

I also can’t imagine a case where anyone couldn’t do these things, whether they’re white, black, purple etc. In fact, saying these things can only apply to one race of people could be seen as a racist statement.

According to studies, we all hold prejudices towards people of other races.

Racism is hardwired into the brain, say scientists – and it operates unconsciously.

The same circuits in the brain that allow us to see which ethnic group a person belongs to overlap with others that drive emotional decisions.

The result is that even right-thinking individuals make unconscious decisions based on a person’s race.

Funny, I don’t see anywhere in that article that only white people can do these things and that black people (or any other group) are exempt from it.

But let’s have a look at some of the arguments being made online by people who claim that black people can not be racist.

Let’s start with this one, which actually claims right in the title that black people can’t be racist:

The system of racism begins with a race designating itself as superior to another. To carry out acts of racism, a race must have power and privilege. There has never been a time in American history when a race other than white has had power and privilege over another—especially in the case of African-Americans.

What a pile of horseshittery. Are you really trying to sell that no African American has ever had power over a white person? They never have the opportunity to act discriminatory?

There are no African American police officers, business owners, politicians, teachers, doctors, celebrities etc?

This could be answered with one picture.

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Pretty sure this guy has a ton of power. I believe the President of the United States is often referred to as ‘the most powerful person on the planet’.

Now this is not to say that minorities cannot be prejudiced or practice discriminatory behaviors because they definitely can and have done so. Bigotry, the stubborn intolerance of any race, creed, belief or opinion different from one’s own, can be practiced by any race. As a part of a community that has experienced tremendous amounts of bigotry and racism to this day, it is important that we as African-Americans direct our anger and hurt at the institution of racism and not people.

Scroll up to the definition of racism and you’ll see that if you’re acting discriminatory, then you’re being freaking racist! Of course it can be practiced by any race because racism isn’t reserved solely for white people.

In this article about a Colbert interview, a comedian explains why black people can’t be racist:

As a counterpoint, Colbert asks if black people can engage in racist behavior, to which Bell notes an important distinction: Yes, black people and people of color can be prejudiced, but that is different from racism.

“When you say the word ‘racism,’ a lot of people who are way smarter than me … academics, they don’t believe you can be racist if you’re a person of color, if you’re a black person,” Bell explains. “We can be prejudiced, but racism implies power and institutions behind it. I can be prejudiced, I can be like, ‘I don’t like white people,’ but I can’t, like, not hire them or not give them their voting rights — you know what I’m saying? So it’s a very different thing.”

No. I don’t see what you’re saying. Of course if you’re a black business owner, you could (try) to deny someone a job purely because you might be racist. So can a white business owner. For your crap theory to sell, you’d have to show that no black business owners exist or are capable of racism.

Who the hell are these academics you speak of?

I feel like I’m watching a Trump interview when he just throws out that ‘other people’ have said something. He didn’t say it. These other people did and he’s just casually bringing it up.

Let’s look at this news story, which starts off with this emotional bit:

A man cannot hate the whip with which he is being flogged but then be expected to love the person doing the flogging. When such a black man, lying helpless bleeding on the ground expresses hate for the white person wielding the whip, it is only reasonable.

Yes! If the person being whipped hates or feels anger towards the person freaking whipping them, then that’s perfectly understandable. When you start thinking all white people are evil because of this one person whipping you, then that’s bloody racist.

On discrimination based on one’s colour, I can only concur that blacks can be prejudicial towards whites – but not racist. What do I mean? Before I attempt to give an explanation of my argument, I first have to define words that serve as the premises: prejudice and racism. Prejudice refers to a positive or negative evaluation of another person based on their perceived group membership. Racism on the other hand refers to social actions, practices or beliefs or political systems that consider different races to be ranked as inherently superior or inferior to each other. Furthermore, racism is socio-economic, with systemic structures which promote one race’s powers over another. Socio-economic being the operative word, I am certain you will agree that black people do not have the resources to impose such oppressive structures which enforce their superiority. White people on the other hand have, and had imposed them on blacks for over four centuries of slavery and colonialism. Black people can be prejudiced, but not racist.

And so black people are incapable of feeling superior and can never take social actions or practices that are based on the prejudices you admit they are capable of feeling?

Jesus. Really?

Well, I can come up with at least one real life example of a black person being racist.

 

In that video a jar of mayonnaise is supposed to be the ‘white friend’ and she says some insane things, such as ‘your people’ don’t wear deodorant.

If a white person said these things about black people, they’d rightly be shouted down as racist.

And if you’re talking about power being necessary for racism, have a look at this video where she decides to get white people to say they owe her reparations.

 

If you can watch those videos and still think black people are incapable of racism, I don’t know what else to say.

I think it’s dangerous to push this narrative that some groups are incapable of racism. It allows them to ignore and excuse away real life racism, and it makes minority groups perpetual victims.

Look, we all know that racism exists. It should be challenged wherever it is found, in whatever group it is found. I also think when we separate ourselves into groups, we make race matter more. Wouldn’t it be a better world if we didn’t see race but just saw the human being instead?

I think ANYONE is capable of being racist. Let’s fight it together.

How My Family Betrayed Me: Part 2

Alrighty, so I’ll continue the story I began in Part 1, which you can read by following the link.

So a little while went by and I continued to do my own thing. I stopped telling my family personal details about my life, but I figured the whole ordeal was over.

Then my Ex called me again. She told me that my family (my sister and mother) were planning on having an Ex-party. I asked her what the hell an Ex-party was, and she explained that a few weeks back, my sister had invited her to my mother’s house, along with a couple of other Ex’s of mine. She said that at the time she had agreed because she had still been a little sore over our breakup, but that she had later declined because she realized that it wasn’t something she should be doing. And because she thought I deserved more respect than that.

I couldn’t believe my ears. I knew that my mother still talked to a few women I had relationships with, but that she and my sister would plan such a thing infuriated me.

My Ex also told me that it had been my sisters idea and when I asked why she would do such a thing, I was told that my sister had thought it would be funny.

For the life of me, I can’t think of any way that it is even remotely funny.

So I texted my sister. She didn’t respond so I called my mother. By this point I was extremely angry. I rarely get angry but I was splitting flames from my mouth.

My mother didn’t deny it. She said it hadn’t been her idea and she was only allowing it to be held at her house. She said that I had no right to tell her what to do in her house and that it was not a big deal; it was only a small gathering of friends and not an ‘Ex-Party’. It was all innocent and I was making a big deal about nothing.

I got even angrier. I yelled. I told her that she was acting like an idiot. I told her that just because she could legally have an Ex-party at her house, didn’t make it right.

She told me that it hadn’t happened yet and so I shouldn’t worry about it. It probably would never happened.

I told her that it shouldn’t have even been thought of. That it was a stupid, hurtful thing to talk about and that when my sister had suggested it, I would have hoped my mother would shoot it down immediately.

I hung up. Later I thought some more about it and decided that I shouldn’t have yelled or called my mother an idiot. I called her back and calmly apologized for my tone and then poured my heart out, telling her how I felt. I expressed my hurt and disappointment and told her that she had taught me to be honorable and honest. I felt that she had been neither and that I shouldn’t have to learn such thing from my Ex-girlfriend. It astounds me that she had more respect for my feelings than my own family.

When I was finished talking, I asked if she had anything to say. My mother said she had company and couldn’t talk right then. I told her that was fine and to call me when she could talk.

I haven’t heard from her since.

My sister meanwhile, used the same story as my mother.

However, my Ex shared a text message from my sister that blamed her for telling me. She said that my Ex shouldn’t have told me and that she had only been trying to help my Ex get over ‘what I had put her through’. She said that they would probably never hear from me again, thanks to her.

When my sister tried to play innocent, I pasted her text into a message and sent it to her.

Instead of apologizing, my sister said she would call the police for harassment if I texted her any more. Basically, she threatened my livelihood, because being a social worker means having a clean record. I know the police wouldn’t charge me with such silliness, but even so I feel that was a low blow.

My sister also said she would contact me if anything happened to my mother.

Even typing this I feel my anger building. So that’s enough for today. I’ll post Part 3 tomorrow, where I’ll talk about the aftermath and how I feel about the whole thing.

Thanks for reading and comments are always welcome.

 

Creepiest Doll Ever?

Doesn't it look like it's going to jump through the screen and murder your family?

I ran into two horrifically creepy dolls on the weekend at a garage sale. The male one made me want to poop my pants.

Or maybe there’s a bit too much fruit in my diet…

Either way, have a look for yourself.

Doesn't it look like it's going to jump through the screen and murder your family?

Doesn’t it look like it’s going to jump through the screen and murder your family?

I’m not sure who thought this doll was a good idea. Just think – at some point this doll had to be designed, approved and manufactured. At no point during that process did someone think this doll was a bad idea?

I mean come on, people! This doll will give children nightmares. If I had it in my house, I’d be locking away all of my sharp knives.

Hell, I might even start praying again just in case.

Here’s the slightly less creepy (in my opinion) female doll.

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*psycho music playing in background*

Let’s distance ourselves from these dolls for a minute. Take a breather. Relax. They’re just dolls.

Right?

A quick update:

Been super busy lately. Besides the move and single life, I found out recently a very close friend of mine has malignant tumors in his brain. They’re not sure what can be done at this point. They’re doing lots of tests on them.

It’s hard to watch their family struggle with this. My father died of cancer and I know how unbearably hard it can be to watch.

So fingers crossed.

I plan on resuming my regular blogging schedule next week. I’ll be making a post next Friday on the The Isaiah 53:5 Project, and I’ll be picking up the keyboard again on my own blog as well. I’ll also be tackling a few atheistic and religious subjects I’ve been thinking about lately.

Thanks for reading!