Returning To My Blog

So, I’ve been super neglectful of my blog. Not sure how many people will read this, but all is well in my world.

Dexter, my faithful Golden Lab, was recently sprayed by a skunk. That was an adventure at 5:30 am I’m not keen to EVER repeat. He’s doing okay though, and somehow only managed to get sprayed in his mouth and on his muzzle. 

Here’s a quick picture of my baby boy.

My YouTube channel has blown up…in a good way. I recently blew through the 10,000 subscriber mark and am well on the way to reaching 11k. 

My jobs going well and my GF continues to be an amazing person who fills my life with joy.

So, let me know how you’re doing! I also included my most recent video below in case you’re interested.

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Is Luke Cage Racist?

maxresdefaultI’m almost done the first season of Luke Cage and I will say that I’m enjoying it.

However, I don’t think it’s one of the best superhero shows around. I’d probably peg it somewhere in the middle.

Yeah, I’m a nerd.

The one thing I don’t like about the show is the super powers Luke Cage possesses. For the first half of the season, nothing could touch the guy so there was little to no suspense. He just walked around and did what he wanted, and the only thing stopping him from taking certain actions were his own set of ethical codes.

One criticism the show has had to endure is that it’s not diverse enough.

In other words, some people think it’s a racist show because it has too many black people and not enough white people.

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To this I call bullshit.

As news.com points out:

The show features an African-American superhero and is set in the historically black community of New York City’s Harlem.

With a predominantly black cast, the show explores oppression and redemption by channelling the African-American experience in today’s USA.

First off…it’s set in a predominantly black area for crying out loud!

Of course the majority of the cast is going to be black in that case.

Second of all, who gives a crap what color their skin is?

The only thing I care about is whether the characters are interesting, whether the plot is good, whether I’m entertained by the content etc. I don’t care whether they’re black, Asian, white or whatever.

Damn it, why do we have to go through every show and movie and count what ‘types’ of people are in it?

Just get the best people for the job, create a show or movie that is good and be damned to what skin color etc they are.

This politically correct nonsense is driving me out of my damned mind!

The one thing I think Luke Cage does need is a super villain with some super powers that can at least give him a run for his money.

I also think it needs to move away from some of the more cliche plot lines, such as an arch-villain with daddy issues.

All in all though, this show is worth a watch. It’s also new so it might grow into an even better show as time goes by.

Anti-Feminist Explains Her Anti-Feminism and a Personal Note From Me

img_0695So I promise that this is going to be the last feminist post for a while and I’ll get back to doing what I normally do on this blog, but I thought this would be a nice note to leave the discussion on, since it’s a really good interview (I think anyways) between anti-feminist, Karen Straughan , and feminist, David Pakman.

Thank you to those willing to put their opinion out there. I feel things got a little heated at times, but I do appreciate you weighing in on this topic, and I hope there’s no hard feelings.

I guess I wanted to showcase this video because it also shows how people can disagree on a subject and walk away without hating one another or thinking they’re ‘idiots’. I hope that none of my critics thinks I believe they’re idiots, because I don’t.

I also really enjoyed the discussions for the most part, and these conversations have gotten me to read a lot more material, including some feminist material from author, Bell Hooks, as well as the links some of you posted.

So again, thank you. I know it’s an emotionally charged topic and yet we were all able (most of the time) to interact respectfully and I think that’s pretty amazing.

In other news, I had Thanksgiving dinner last night with my family. Tonight I ate some leftovers. My lady is away until tomorrow and I miss her dearly. It’s been four days since she left and I can’t wait to wrap her in a warm embrace.

Earlier tonight, she sent me the picture you see in the corner. Dexter is currently sprawled beside me on the floor while I type this and the evil genius, Duke, is likely planning how he’s going to keep me awake tonight.

Anyhow, enough sappy crap. Cheers all!

 

Answering The Criticism On My Feminism Post: Part 1

My last post saw a number of interesting comments and I wanted to take a second to answer them. You can read the comments and the original post by following the link if you’re interested.

Thank you to those who were willing to share their opinions, and I sincerely appreciate it.

Let’s get started.

I wanted to begin with a comment from Tildeb. Tildeb thought that there is a very patriarchal system at play, and so I asked them to point me towards systemic patriarchy by saying this:

“point me towards systemic patriarchy – one that is systemic in the West. I can think of only one and that’s maternity leave in the US. Other Western countries have maternity leave but that could be argued to be a systemic oppression of women rooted in the system of laws.”

Instead of pointing me towards a systemic law (I still don’t think one exists and women in the West are treated equally with men by law) they decided to go with the feminist talking point about ‘fear sexual assault’.

Then they asked me a series of questions, which I’ll answer here.

Put another way, would men tolerate a sexual predator environment and all its avenues of maintaining it if they were the prey? Would men tolerate so many judges blaming them for ‘enticing’ sexual assault or would they demand that the law against such assaults be systemically enforced?

I’m not sure where this sexual predator environment exists. What are these avenues maintaining it?

No, men would not stand for judges blaming them for being sexually assaulted, but there are bad judges out there and you can find a slew of specific cases where you could legitimately argue that the judge was a knucklehead and gave a light sentence or berated the victim.

And guess what, judges can also face trial for blaming women who are victims of rape.

This isn’t new and yes, I think our justice system has to be reformed in places. But that’s not as much a feminist issue as an issue with our justice system as a whole.

And yes, I think stiffer sentences should be carried out for sexual assault.

I don’t think so. But check it out for yourself: ask a woman how she feels walking down a street, any street any time of day. Now ask a man. Those two answers are worlds apart.

Okay, I did.

Both said you should take reasonable precautions, which is the same answer I would give and all of us felt reasonably safe walking at any time, although less so depending on where we would be walking at what time.

Do you think about sexual assault every time you get dressed or undressed?

No, and neither did the two women I asked. If you’re thinking about being assaulted every time you get dressed or undressed, I think that’s unhealthy.

Does the horror genre kill of men every time they have sex in the plot?

Every time a woman has sex, they get killed in a horror movie? I don’t think so. How did Sidney make it through four Scream movies?

In fact:

After having sex, Sidney and Billy are attacked by the killer, who seemingly murders Billy. Sidney escapes the killer and seeks help from Kenny, but he gets his throat slit by the killer. Sidney again flees

Looks like a whole bunch of guys get killed. Misandry!

I think you’re reading too much into this. Not everything is a feminist conspiracy.

Do you automatically evaluate all others on their potential of assaulting you in a sexual nature – at home when you answer the door, at work when you enter a room, at a restaurant or theater or store?

No. And neither did the two women. That sounds paranoid.

Do you try to park your car according to your (not your car’s) physical security, choose your exercise paths running or biking based on staying in sight of others in public places…

No. But like any responsible adult, I take precautions for my own safety. Sometimes I take risks and I know there are bad people out there who would like to hurt me, but I’m not going to let them dictate how I live my life.

The women I asked said they are not victims and do not like being treated like children. Both walk home late at night sometimes. Both said people should beware when travelling through certain stretches of the city late at night. Both said they don’t believe in the patriarchy.

I have another coworker who told me about how their brother in law was walking home the other day. Someone stopped their car on the side of the road (a complete stranger) and clothes-lined him. He fell and hit his head off the sidewalk and suffered a brain aneurysm.

There are bad people out there who want to hurt people for no reason. Being a man doesn’t exempt you from that.

Are you whistled at most times you walk down a street, accosted by cat calls on a hot day if you’re wearing something ‘revealing’

No. But in my experience, women are more subtle about it. They still talk about men. They still comment on our looks etc. They just don’t publicize it on the street very often.

women asking you for sexual access most time you venture into public

So women walk down the street and strangers just walk up to them and demand sexual access? Huh?

Please tell me where you live so I can avoid that part of the world.

women you don’t know and in public places inappropriately touching you, invading your personal space in sexually suggestive ways, inappropriately reminding you that you are a male and worth their unwanted sexual attention… and then insulted if you demur?

Yes. I’ve had all those things happen to me. I’ve been insulted for saying no. I’ve been shamed for saying I’m not in the mood.

I was once at a party and got severely intoxicated. I fell asleep on a bed. When I woke up a woman had my penis in her hand and she was playing with it. I told her to stop, and she kept trying. I finally got up and stumbled to the living-room. She told her friends and they followed me calling me names, as if I should be the one ashamed.

I could tell you more stories but I think that suffice.

Have more than half of your male friends been sexually assaulted?

I don’t know. I don’t poll them and we don’t talk about it. None of them know about that party story either. I do know of one friend who passed out at a party and woke up with a condom on.

Do other men give you advice on avoiding attracting the ‘wrong’ kind of aggressive female? Do other men criticize your hair and makeup for its effect on women?

Yes. Dating advice is hardly new territory.

Yes, people criticize what a man wears or how his hair looks etc. Of course they do. As well as weight, whether they smoke, how active they are, how smart they are etc.

Are you looking for a utopia where no one ever does or says anything dickish?

You – like most men – knwo very little about what it’s like to be immersed in such a sexualized world every moment of every day of your life where you are held equally accountable by laws that supposedly ‘protect’ you for the unwanted sexual attention and actions of others as you are criticized for not being attractive enough, not doing more to make yourself both more and less attractive all the time, shown in every media why you are a sexual person first and everything else after.

Yes. We live in a sexual world. Men experience this as well. Men movie stars tend to be attractive. Men models are attractive. Both men and women are told they should be attractive. That’s not likely to change in the future. Like it or not, we are a sexual animal and we are drawn to traits we find attractive and both sexes generally want to attract the attention of the opposite sex.

Go on any dating site, for example, and you’ll find loads of women with very precise figures for what they want in a man. Everything from their job, their education to their weight and size.

This is not your world. But it is one small part of the patriarchy world, a world that exists and from which you are privileged simply by the nature of your gender not to have to live in.

Well, I do not feel privileged and I think you’ve bought into a semi-religious cult that has no real direction now that it has achieved its initial goals. Instead of criticizing actual abuse against women, they often attack video games and movies. When questioned, they go on about this patriarchy and privilege and so forth, but generally offer very little of substance besides buzzwords.

Yes, we face problems and our system isn’t perfect. Yes, there are issues to be addressed but I see no reason to believe that feminism is the right mechanism to get it done, because as Ruth pointed out in my first post, feminism doesn’t take into account 50% of the population. They are only interested in women and women’s issues.

My point is that now that we have men and women on equal standing as far as laws go, let’s get to work on all of those issues together.

Fuck looking at whether someone is a male or female to decide whether they matter or not.

If sexual assault is an issue (and it is) then let’s reform the system so that everyone benefits. Not everything is patriarchy, and not everything is due to men being violent assholes.

So there’s my answers to your questions. I hope there are no hard feelings. I just wanted to thoroughly answer your comment and felt this was the best format to do so.

Next post I’ll address  The Arbourist’s comment.

As always, thank you for reading and feel free to leave your thoughts below.

Can Only White People Be Racist?

I’ve read a number of articles and been told specifically that black people can’t be racist, although they can be prejudiced.

As soon as I heard this claim, my bullshit meter went into high alert. However, being the skeptic that I am, I decided to do some research on my own.

So before we begin, let’s take a look at the definition of racism. I will even share more than one accepted definition, just in case you think I’m cherry picking.

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Here we have 3 definitions. All of them seem to agree with one another. The definitions are from Merriam, Oxford and Wiki.

I also can’t imagine a case where anyone couldn’t do these things, whether they’re white, black, purple etc. In fact, saying these things can only apply to one race of people could be seen as a racist statement.

According to studies, we all hold prejudices towards people of other races.

Racism is hardwired into the brain, say scientists – and it operates unconsciously.

The same circuits in the brain that allow us to see which ethnic group a person belongs to overlap with others that drive emotional decisions.

The result is that even right-thinking individuals make unconscious decisions based on a person’s race.

Funny, I don’t see anywhere in that article that only white people can do these things and that black people (or any other group) are exempt from it.

But let’s have a look at some of the arguments being made online by people who claim that black people can not be racist.

Let’s start with this one, which actually claims right in the title that black people can’t be racist:

The system of racism begins with a race designating itself as superior to another. To carry out acts of racism, a race must have power and privilege. There has never been a time in American history when a race other than white has had power and privilege over another—especially in the case of African-Americans.

What a pile of horseshittery. Are you really trying to sell that no African American has ever had power over a white person? They never have the opportunity to act discriminatory?

There are no African American police officers, business owners, politicians, teachers, doctors, celebrities etc?

This could be answered with one picture.

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Pretty sure this guy has a ton of power. I believe the President of the United States is often referred to as ‘the most powerful person on the planet’.

Now this is not to say that minorities cannot be prejudiced or practice discriminatory behaviors because they definitely can and have done so. Bigotry, the stubborn intolerance of any race, creed, belief or opinion different from one’s own, can be practiced by any race. As a part of a community that has experienced tremendous amounts of bigotry and racism to this day, it is important that we as African-Americans direct our anger and hurt at the institution of racism and not people.

Scroll up to the definition of racism and you’ll see that if you’re acting discriminatory, then you’re being freaking racist! Of course it can be practiced by any race because racism isn’t reserved solely for white people.

In this article about a Colbert interview, a comedian explains why black people can’t be racist:

As a counterpoint, Colbert asks if black people can engage in racist behavior, to which Bell notes an important distinction: Yes, black people and people of color can be prejudiced, but that is different from racism.

“When you say the word ‘racism,’ a lot of people who are way smarter than me … academics, they don’t believe you can be racist if you’re a person of color, if you’re a black person,” Bell explains. “We can be prejudiced, but racism implies power and institutions behind it. I can be prejudiced, I can be like, ‘I don’t like white people,’ but I can’t, like, not hire them or not give them their voting rights — you know what I’m saying? So it’s a very different thing.”

No. I don’t see what you’re saying. Of course if you’re a black business owner, you could (try) to deny someone a job purely because you might be racist. So can a white business owner. For your crap theory to sell, you’d have to show that no black business owners exist or are capable of racism.

Who the hell are these academics you speak of?

I feel like I’m watching a Trump interview when he just throws out that ‘other people’ have said something. He didn’t say it. These other people did and he’s just casually bringing it up.

Let’s look at this news story, which starts off with this emotional bit:

A man cannot hate the whip with which he is being flogged but then be expected to love the person doing the flogging. When such a black man, lying helpless bleeding on the ground expresses hate for the white person wielding the whip, it is only reasonable.

Yes! If the person being whipped hates or feels anger towards the person freaking whipping them, then that’s perfectly understandable. When you start thinking all white people are evil because of this one person whipping you, then that’s bloody racist.

On discrimination based on one’s colour, I can only concur that blacks can be prejudicial towards whites – but not racist. What do I mean? Before I attempt to give an explanation of my argument, I first have to define words that serve as the premises: prejudice and racism. Prejudice refers to a positive or negative evaluation of another person based on their perceived group membership. Racism on the other hand refers to social actions, practices or beliefs or political systems that consider different races to be ranked as inherently superior or inferior to each other. Furthermore, racism is socio-economic, with systemic structures which promote one race’s powers over another. Socio-economic being the operative word, I am certain you will agree that black people do not have the resources to impose such oppressive structures which enforce their superiority. White people on the other hand have, and had imposed them on blacks for over four centuries of slavery and colonialism. Black people can be prejudiced, but not racist.

And so black people are incapable of feeling superior and can never take social actions or practices that are based on the prejudices you admit they are capable of feeling?

Jesus. Really?

Well, I can come up with at least one real life example of a black person being racist.

 

In that video a jar of mayonnaise is supposed to be the ‘white friend’ and she says some insane things, such as ‘your people’ don’t wear deodorant.

If a white person said these things about black people, they’d rightly be shouted down as racist.

And if you’re talking about power being necessary for racism, have a look at this video where she decides to get white people to say they owe her reparations.

 

If you can watch those videos and still think black people are incapable of racism, I don’t know what else to say.

I think it’s dangerous to push this narrative that some groups are incapable of racism. It allows them to ignore and excuse away real life racism, and it makes minority groups perpetual victims.

Look, we all know that racism exists. It should be challenged wherever it is found, in whatever group it is found. I also think when we separate ourselves into groups, we make race matter more. Wouldn’t it be a better world if we didn’t see race but just saw the human being instead?

I think ANYONE is capable of being racist. Let’s fight it together.

You Don’t Get To Tell People To Take Off Clothing Because It Hurts Your Feelings

So there’s a big story circulating about a student who was told they had to remove their hat because it supported Donald Trump.

Oh yeah…and this happened in Canada.

Here’s the video but if you don’t feel like watching it, I’ll provide quotes below.

 

Let’s take a look at what it says in the National Post about this incident:

The incident — in which a female student at Mount Royal University insists that a male remove the hat commonly worn by Donald Trump supporters — came to light Thursday after a video emerged online.

In it the woman approaches a man asking him to take the hat off, arguing the slogan stands for hate language. The man refuses, insisting that he is in a public place and has the right to freedom of expression. He rejects the suggestion that it’s a hateful message.

When asked to remark about the confrontation later, the female student had this to say:

“Today (Wednesday) I got into an altercation with a guy wearing a ‘Make America Great Again’ hat. I went up and asked him if he would take the hat off, explaining a university should be a safe space,” she said.

“It was impossible to communicate to him why wearing a hat in support of a movement grown on the seeds of racism, bigotry and exclusion of diversity (sexual and cultural) could make some people afraid,” she added.

What the fuck.

You don’t get to tell people what they can and can not wear because you disagree with its message. You can disagree with the hats message and debate what the hat might signify, but you don’t get to be an authoritarian douche.

And since when is a University a ‘safe space’? Are young adults too sensitive to hear or be confronted with differing opinions?

Do you think the real world will be full of safe spaces for you to hide in?

A hat shouldn’t have the power to make anyone afraid. It seems obvious to me that this young lady wasn’t afraid in the slightest, because she sure as hell didn’t have any problem publicly confronting the hat wearer and causing an altercation. That doesn’t look like the actions of someone who is ‘afraid’.

Look, I think Trump is a dumb ass as well, but that means he’s able to be beaten in the marketplace of ideas. Instead of resorting to authoritarianism, why not engage in debate? By telling this guy to remove his hat, you become a bigger a-hole (or at the very least as big an a-hole) as the person you’re disagreeing with.

This kind of nonsense has to stop. We seem to be creating a society of people who can’t tolerate dissenting opinion; people who are willing to force others to agree with them through any means necessary.

If you want a ‘safe space’, try your own living-room or bedroom. That’s a safe place. A school is a place for learning and for being exposed to knew ideas, even ideas you might not agree with.

I know, it’s a shocker, right?

Later, the school had this to say:

“I have seen the video and want to emphasize that I believe, both as an individual and as the President of Mount Royal University, freedom of speech is fundamental to post-secondary institutions and to society as a whole,” said Docherty.

“Students can express differing opinions in a respectful way to increase understanding of each other’s views. Universities play a critical role in society as places where students and other groups can share and listen to different perspectives in a respectful and peaceful way. We will continue to protect this freedom of expression.”

Amen.

At least this school isn’t caving into the bullying of the authoritarians who want to eradicate any opinion but their own.

Screw Off With The Demonization

Something has been bothering the shit out of me lately.

I’m so sick of seeing people get demonized for holding different opinions on controversial subjects.

Examples:

Agree with Colin Kaepernick’s choice to sit during the national anthem, then you should be shot at.

It was also a pastor that said that. I guess that’s what Jesus would have done.

Don’t agree with Black Lives Matter?

You’re a racist.

Don’t agree with third wave feminism?

You’re a misogynist, woman hating piece of shit.

You criticize Islam as a set of ideas?

You fucking Islamophobe. It’s okay to criticize Christianity though. Have at it Hoss. We all know that Christianity is a set of ideas and not a race of people.

How about we engage the arguments being made instead of slapping a label on someone so you can conveniently ignore their differing opinion.

You have even seen this nonsense in the atheist community, where members of Atheist + tried to force their feminism on all atheists. Not only do they try to bully people who disagree with parts of their feminist ideology, but what the fuck does feminism have to do with atheism?

Atheism is just a lack of belief in God(s). Sure you can describe yourself as an atheist and a feminist, but being an atheist doesn’t require you to be a feminist. They are mutually exclusive things.

Even the American election is full of demonizing and stupidity. In fact, a recent Huffington Post article literally called for violence against Trump if he were to win the election.

Don’t believe me, then feel free to read the article yourself.

Now look, I lean Left when it comes to politics, but we see these tactics being used by both sides, and quite a few of those examples given above come from the Left side of the political spectrum.

How about we share ideas, debate one another on topics, listen to the other side and stop slapping ridiculous labels on people in an attempt to publicly shame them into silence.