Damn, I love this post. I just read a post titled Let me set the record straight and it’s pure gold.
Anyhow, this writer recently left the blog, The Coalition of the Brave, and she decided to write this post addressing her detractors on her own site.
As you might expect, it starts off by fostering an atmosphere of open and free discussion:
I’m really sick of dealing with other’s people’s shit. I’ve tried to be nice and clearly that’s not working.
Damn. Did anyone else feel the temperature drop?
Multiple times I’ve had people write passive aggressive blog posts about me because they didn’t like something that I said or because they didn’t “understand” my post.
Yes. I’m sure it never has anything to do with how you present your argument or about your subject matter or anything else that might have to do with you.
It’s always everyone else. Meanies.
Well, I’m going to clear every thing up right now. Apparently, the only way for me to do that is to stoop to their level and also write a post about them…so be it.
Okay…get on with it already!
Wait. Hold that thought.
My dog is eyeing me as I type this. I think he might force my dumb ass to stoop to picking up his dog shit in a few seconds. That should do wonders for my mood.
I’ll be right back.
First of all, if you are a white man you don’t get to tell me how to feel or respond to racism or sexism. Why? Because you don’t fucking know what it’s like.
Alright, I’m back and you have my full attention. I skipped the next paragraph because it was basically whining about how she left because no one understood her and so on. They’re assholes…blah, blah, blah.
But this bit just blows your mind.
How would you know whether a white man has suffered racism or sexism? You’ve talked to all of them? Are you saying there is no scenario where a white person could suffer from racism or a man from sexism?
Being a man and/or white doesn’t mean anything. No one chose to be born with their skin color or sex. It’s an arbitrary trait and says nothing about the person they are. Your opinion is just as valid as a man’s. Neither your sex or his says anything about your character or the validity of your opinion or argument.
If something bad happens to white people somewhere, I don’t care that they’re white. I care if they’re people being treated unjustly.
But to your point, no one can ‘tell’ someone else how to respond to legitimate racism or sexism, but they can hold an opinion on it, and last time I looked we still live in free countries where people can voice that opinion.
I don’t give a fuck if you think you have all the answers. You don’t.
But you do, right?
What you really need to do is shut the fuck up and check your goddamn privilege.
I think you need to check yours, because you’re the one who feels privileged enough to tell others to shut the fuck up.
The fact that you don’t understand this concept is why we keep coming back to this same place.
Speaking for myself, I understand the concept. What you don’t seem to fully grasp is that I disagree with it.
I might not have much, but I worked hard to get where I am. You don’t know me from a hole in the wall, yet you feel entitled enough to brand me as privileged because of my skin color.
Yes, I brought up privilege. Oh I bet that’ll piss some people off. Are you tired of hearing about it because you don’t actually think it exists. Of course you are….I wonder why that is?
Of course it pisses people off. You’re diminishing their individual achievements.
Yet, somehow you still don’t understand anything that minorities tell you if it doesn’t “directly apply to you” *hint hint* that’s privilege.
You don’t seem to understand that we’re all individuals with different stories, backgrounds, socioeconomic backgrounds, life experiences, history etc.
The fact that you want to label anyone with a particular skin color as being privileged is *hint hint* your privilege speaking.
I’m all for discussions, even a good debate.
Yeah, you’re so warm and inviting.
If you don’t know what feminism is or what it’s about then educate yourself. Don’t start an argument with me just because you don’t like that word. I don’t care.
You seem to think that if someone disagrees with you, they just don’t understand the concept. That’s such a condescending stance to take.
Here’s a thought – maybe they do understand but disagree with it for various reasons.
And if you disagree with my feminism that basically tells me that you’re a shitty person because I believe in equality.
What the hell!?
You can believe in equality and not be a feminist. It’s not like feminism has a lock on the concept of equality.
And no, not being a feminist doesn’t make you a shitty person. The majority of people don’t identify as feminists, and by using your own logic, that means the majority of people are shitty.
If you actually knew me, then you would know that I’m not the kind of person that “creates echo chambers” I am very capable of having great discussions and helping people understand certain situations by explaining to them what they can’t see.
Look at the last bit of that sentence. Do you not realize that you’ve already made up your mind that you’re right, and any discussion you have is about getting people to see ‘what they can’t see’?
Oh, and as long as they aren’t white males. Those white males are so uppity with their idea that their opinions are just as valid as yours. They’re just dripping with privilege and should definitely shut the fuck up.
I’ve seen no sign of your willingness to have a good discussion. You berate people based on the color of their skin and sex, you say anyone who doesn’t agree with you on feminism is a shitty person, and you consistently talk down to people and tell them they just don’t understand.
That’s just in this one post alone. And you wonder why some people take exception to your posts?
None of those qualities contributes to an atmosphere of sharing ideas.
Your lack of maturity and inability to have a conversation isn’t my problem, so do not waste my time with your bullshit.
I rest my case.