Stress. We all have it, but it’s how we deal with it that matters.
My sister recently sent me a Facebook notification. It made me open my FB page for the first time in several months, but it was actually worth it. It was a post by a ‘Captain Paul Watson’. I have no way to know if it was a legit post, but the author talks about how to cope with stress.
Since my breakup, I’ve been faced with a lot of stress that I’m not used to, and I’ve had to find ways to deal with it or go insane.
So the Captain’s advice basically boils down to this:
It is what it is. Whatever the issue, whatever the threat, whatever the circumstances it simply is what it is. Stressing will not change the situation. All problems can be dealt with or ignored.
This actually resonated with me because I try to live by this philosophy. If something happened that I couldn’t fix, I tried not to worry about it.
Anyhow, Captain Watson counsels:
- Stay calm because nothing is worth worrying about.
- Don’t worry about material objects. They’re nice to have but don’t let them anchor you to stress.
- Friends are either friends or they aren’t. If one betrays you, walk away.
- Treat loneliness as an opportunity to discover yourself.
- Accept people for who they are and if a relationship ends, move on with appreciation.
- Fear is poison and things will be what they will be so there is no need to fear.
- Ignore people who gossip, make false accusations etc. Their behavior stems from insecurity and stress and can be easily ignored.
- Death is an absolute and you will die regardless of whether you worry about it.
Those are some of the basic points the author makes. Of course, I paraphrased them and left out the examples. It was a long post.
I agree with most of them. I tend to ignore things I can’t change because stressing about them won’t change that I’m powerless to change them.
However, I do suffer from stress headaches and recently I’ve felt more stressed than usual. So maybe I’m not doing as good a job as I thought.
So I’ve been working out like a crazy person and this seems to have helped a lot. By the time I get home at night, I’m pretty exhausted. I fall into bed and wake up in the morning and do it all over again. It helps that I have a pretty great job, and that I work with people who could brighten the gloomiest of days.
It’s hard to glower when a deaf, blind guy tells you that he misses you after a vacation.
Things might be going sideways for me, but I try to view it as an adventure. I’ll get to do, see and experience new things. On my adventure, I’ll have good old Dexter.
Who will love me no matter what.
Last night I got home feeling a bit sorry for myself. Dexter was having none of it. He really does brighten up my world.